Heyo, fellow bloggers!
I bet all all of you guys have felt the rush when a bunch of people liked your posts for the first time. You get excited and you start expecting the same from your future posts, especially, when you just started out blogging. I know I can relate to that. Now that’s a typical example of the “I’ll be happy when” syndrome.
When a goal is achieved we feel happy, but when the happiness fades away, we assume that we can be happy if we achieve more. This success-happiness loop goes on and on, until we realize that the source of our happiness is not external. We all aim to be happy in the future, but most of us don’t realize that we have to be happy in the present to be happy in the future. What do I mean by that? The present was once the future, y’know? Happiness is not external, so it doesn’t come with time. You don’t have to wait for happiness, because you’ll always experience it in the present. So there is no point in darting into the future, trying chase down happiness, when you are running past them in the present. In short, if you are feeling happy in the present, you’ll be feel happy in the future.
And I blame this misinterpretation on the “I’ll be happy when” syndrome. It fools us into thinking that happiness can be found in the future if we do things right in the present. Most of us assume that successful result equals happiness, but only a few realize that happiness is not bound by any such limitation. This kind of assumption is toxic, because it, in a way, implies that not getting the desired result would make us feel bad. Feeling bad for a mistake is not a bad thing, but I can’t say the same thing about associating happiness with the successful result. Even the process of doing something can be enjoyable if we wanted it to be. In the end, we are the ones who generate happiness, not success, not money, not luxury. It’s just up to us. While wanting success is not an evil desires, robbing yourself of the happiness by saying that you’ll be happy only when you have something is definitely a limiting belief. So, shatter such limiting beliefs, and live your life to the fullest.
Don’t look for happiness. Create it.